Question:
I think my ex boyfriend is in love with me, but I?m not sure. Are there any signs that I should look for from him?
Answer:
Great question. But first, before you do anything, you need to know what to look for so you know when the best time to approach him is. Signs that your ex boyfriend still cares about you are given both openly and covertly. The 3 questions that follow will help you determine if your boyfriend still loves you and when you should make a move.
Three Signs He Still Loves You
Has your ex boyfriend ever come to a place he knew you might be?
Anytime your ex boyfriend shows up to a place where you just happen to be at is a good sign that he still cares about you. He may say that he’s there with his friends, but in reality he’s really there to keep tabs on you and see what you’re up to. Also, has your ex boyfriend ever dropped by your house or where you work? The truth is there is no good reason for him to come to these places (except if he goes to school or works with you) other than to see how you are doing and what you are up to. Either way, your boyfriend either wants to see what you’re doing or he really misses your company.
If you see you ex boyfriend in a social gathering or parties is a different issue. If both of you share a lot of mutual friends, it may not imply anything. However if your ex boyfriend appears to be close to your friends and still comes around often, then he’s likely more interested in hanging out with you than with your friends.
Lastly, try not to let it bother you that you’ve come in contact with your boyfriend after the breakup – this happens all the time. The benefit from bumping into him every so often is that you start to create a vacancy in his life that he longs for. And as time goes by, he’ll start to think about you more often and this will cause him to miss you more. This is the time when you need to start making your initial moves to get him back.
How shortly after breaking up did your ex-boyfriend come to take his stuff?
Does my boyfriend still really love me? A great reason your ex boyfriend will use to ?see? you after the breakup will be when he shows up to get his stuff. Take this opportunity to have a civil conversation with him.
Depending on how long it’s been since the breakup, your ex boyfriend may still be angry and emotional towards you. This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not into you. He may just be looking to vent.
Is your ex boyfriend taking a while to collect his stuff? If so, he probably wants things to cool down between you two before seeing you again. Also, it’s possible that he wanted to see if he could handle life without you before getting his stuff. This can really be a huge clue that your ex boyfriend is still interested in you. Depending on how the breakup went down, there’s a good chance that when he comes to get his stuff is really the point in his life when he started to miss you the most and needed to see you.
Did you know there’s an even better indication that your boyfriend still loves you? It’s when he leaves his stuff with you and doesn’t come back to get it. This means that you, as a girlfriend and lover, are more significant to him than anything he ever gave you. What he’s really doing here by not showing up to take his stuff is he’s hoping you’ll call him so he can strike up a conversation with you.
At the end of the day, if your boyfriend calls you looking for his stuff, allow him to have it. You’ve accomplished your goal here by making him call you and not calling him.
How does your ex boyfriend react, when you see him face to face?
Watch to see how your ex boyfriend reacts when he’s around you. Look at his body language, his clothes and his other actions. All these will be signs as to how he really feels about you. Expect that if you’re meeting up with a group of friends that your face to face meeting will be friendly and amicable. Depending on how the relationship ended, your ex boyfriend might want to show you a different side to him and an outing with friends is the perfect cover. And if you find that your ex boyfriend is extremely friendly and outgoing, there’s a good chance he’s looking to make a second impression on you.
Do you know what else to look for during your face to face meeting? If he can’t look you straight in the eyes. If your ex boyfriend is not comfortable around you but still wants to be around you, then don’t expect him to look you in the eye. It could be that he’s still wrestling with his emotions after the breakup and doesn’t know how to proceed or what to do next.
These are just three of the many signs that your boyfriend still loves you and that he wants you back. Now that you know what to look for, think back and see if any of these have ever taken place when you’ve crossed paths. If so, maybe you’re closer to getting your ex boyfriend back than you think?