In your twenties, as long as you enjoy being around somebody and are attracted to them, you’re prepared to pursue a relationship. But, as you become older, you learn the harsh reality that those dynamics are sadly not enough and if you notice these red flags in the beginning, you cut things off at the knees.
He just started a business
This can be such an attractive quality in a man:entrepreneurialism. But, date enough men who just took out loans and hired their first “team” and you’ll learn that being an entrepreneur comes with a lot of stress. My buddy fell head over heels for this voice coach in LA right when he had up until then just taught people how to sing on a personal basis but then was starting his own singing academy where he’d hire multiple singing teachers to teach singing lessons. Their first date went well, but suddenly she heard from him sporadically and on dates he would seem mentally elsewhere, if he wasn’t just blatantly on a business call. After that, she never got into a relationship with a man who was just establishing himself as an entrepreneur.
He’s newly single
To our own demise, in our twenties we’re fascinated by guys who just got out of relationships. We want to undertake the challenge of winning a guy’s affections which are still elsewhere, and we just like dating guys who are “broken.” We find it exciting. Get older and you realize attempting to date someone newly single is emotionally draining, you get very little out of it and, if a guy just got out of one relationship and wants another one that he is probably a relationship addict. Never a good thing.
He detests his job
Who doesn’t in their early twenties? You’re typically an intern, an assistant, working in a mailroom or have a totally entry-level position in which you get pushed around and don’t get to do any of the fun stuff. But, when a man still talks poorly about his job in his thirties, you can’t help but wonder why he didn’t get his act together and work towards something better. It honestly just makes him look A) Like a major whiner and/or B) Unambitious.
He calls sporadically
In your early twenties, you still don’t understand the notion of guys who are “bad for you.” The only thing you concern yourself with is that you simply like the guy and that he makes you feel giddy. If accmoplishes that, you’ll let him get away with just about anything. So, if he only calls every two weeks and says, “Sorry, been busy” you say, “That’s okay!” and get in his car (or bed). As you become older and your life gets hectic, you understand that you find time for the people you really want to spend time with. You don’t accept the “Been busy” excuse from guys anymore.